On May 22nd, 2013, I was given the opportunity to partake in a unique experience called The Not Wedding. The Not Wedding provides an alternative method to the “typical” bridal show. This event consists of what may be called, a faux wedding, inviting future brides and grooms to attend a completely planned ceremony and reception, consisting of real vendors who are showcasing their own products and services. This event is beneficial to impending brides and grooms, as the brides and grooms are able to witness and experience an array of different vendors and ideas that they may be interested in pursuing in their own wedding.
I believe it was my frequent “selfie” instagram posts that made me the perfect target when approached by my inspirational female colleagues at Tinsel & Twine to participate as a model in this event. I was very intrigued by the concept of The Not Wedding and had already planned to attend the event so I was quite honored when asked to model as a bridesmaid for the first ever The Not Wedding New York Edition. My responsibility as a bridesmaid model consisted of acting in both the ceremony and reception, as well as partaking in a full day photo shoot around the East Village, which served seemingly as “wedding party portraits.” As a wedding planner, I have always been on the other side; I am typically the person who collaborates with the photographers and vendors to execute a certain idea. I am usually behind the camera dictating to the models or real life individuals how to pose, where to stand, when to walk, etc. Because of this, when approached to participate in this shoot, I was both excited, as well as anxious as to how the other side lives and breathes.
It did not take long for my nerves to ease and the fun to begin from the initial moments meeting my fellow models and beginning hair and makeup which was executed by the outstanding services of Dana Marie and Ashley Malone. Once I was finally fitted in my outstanding Amsale bridesmaid gown provided by The White Gown and completed with my exquisitely outrageous headpiece by HushedCommotion it was time for all the pre-ceremonial photographs, taken by the talented collective of photographers Jessica Oh Photography, Jean Spencer Photography and Authentic Photo. The amazing creative team from NST Pictures also followed our every move to capture video. My experience in front of the camera was enjoyable and enlightening. It allowed me to truly see what my couples feel during their engagement photo sessions and wedding day photographs. There were moments that I had to refrain from giving direction and offering ideas and remind myself I wasn’t in charge. Everyone organizing the day was amazing, led by The Not Wedding team and Dulce Dream Events, but putting a creative person in a creative setting and asking them to play along was a lot more challenging than I had imagined. I shared this sentiment with my fellow wedding party model and fellow planner, Jove Meyer, as on occasion we attempted to anticipate what the photographers would want for their photographs. We couldn’t help but execute at least one photograph! (the one below of the wedding party on the bench with our legs crossed). I guess as the saying (that I may have made up) goes, “once a planner, always a planner!” I believe that with anything and everything, one must be open to considering all sides; to know the other perspective can only enhance oneself in how they approach certain circumstances, and in my case, my work and my passion. I am looking forward to applying my knowledge to future photo shoots and further preparing my clients as they embark on the planning process and the many occasions they will face to be in front a camera. The photographs from the event truly say it all, and I thank The Not Wedding and the collaborators for a memorable experience! I hope the photos I’ve chosen to share tell a story and invite you into what was a successfully inspiring bridal event!
The Not Wedding allowed me a wonderful opportunity to connect with so many talented vendors that were showcasing their products in the “Tunnel of Love.” Looking forward to working with them all again in the near future, but ideally from where I’m most comfortable, behind the camera.
In case you aren’t visually stimulated yet by those stunning images, feast your eyes on the video created by NST Pictures.
Venue: Bathhouse Studios | Food: Soulfully Good Catering | Wine: Ferrari | Production: BML Blackbird | Photography: Jean Spencer Photography, Jessica Oh! Photography, Authentic Photo | Videography: NST Pictures | Coordination: Dulce Dreams Events | Floral and Event Design: Lindsay Rae Design, Tinsel & Twine, Field & Feather, Ruffles & Tweed | Stationery: And Here We Are, Buzzy Craftery | Paper Flags & Banners: Liddabits | Dresses: The White Gown | Women’s Shoes: Chromatic Gallerie | Bride and Bridesmaids Accessories: Hushed Commotion | Groom and Groomsmen Accessories: French Knot Studios | Clutches: Merci New York | Band: MIXTAPE:A Cover Band For Hipsters | DJ: Because the Night | Makeup: Makeup by Dana Marie | Hair: Ashley Malone | Photobooth: The Majestic Photobooth Company | Love Story Writer: Prequels